Co-Regulation Blog
Honey, Let’s Make a Contract
Good Agreements Build Relationship Stability Stable co-regulatory relationships expand our bandwidth for facing life. AND: Most of us want long-term romantic partnerships, while actually experiencing romance as a revolving door of short-term partnerships. Master couples therapist and author Stan Tatkin* proposes building good contracts into partnerships for more relational stability. I agree and I know
IFS and Psychedelics: Two Essential Points from Dick Schwartz
Dick Schwartz’s approach to therapy in general and psychedelics in particular has been very helpful to me over the past decade. I want to share two of his most useful points from the Summit on Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy. One point is about the necessity to engage with protector parts in our preparation work: Do not
Healing PTSD with Psychedelics and Embodiment
There are many reasons to take psychedelics. Healing, creativity, spiritual growth, developing group minds, and cooperation, to name a few. One speaker at the recent Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy Summit mentioned how Silicon Valley entrepreneurs believe they “need to be microdosing just to keep pace with the other innovators in tech”. My interest is in more
What Really Heals PTSD? – Do We Need to Rethink Therapy, Can We Reverse Failure of the Tribe?
The recent MAPS study piqued my curiosity about complexity and intensity as possibly helpful in healing PTSD – if the complexity might be sessions with two therapists and the intensity more therapy hours in a shorter time frame. I have been listening to the Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy Summit this October and the perspective of Andrew
Go Away, I Need You – Connection, Complexity and Overwhelm
When we are overwhelmed, connection and social engagement can be really helpful. However, connecting can also feel like one more complicated thing to navigate, one more overwhelming set of demands. Attachment trauma, in particular, complicates any choice to connect, especially when we are close to feeling overwhelmed or helpless. Were you ever overwhelmed as a
Get a Life: Difficult Choices and Wholeheartedness for 2024
When we care about high-level attunement and co-regulation, the habit of cultivating wholeheartedness is a great tool to keep us on track.