Safety is Not an all or nothing experience – There are degrees and varieties of safety. Our bodies and minds are fine tuned to sense safety, in all its different varieties. We may feel safe enough to enjoy a meal with a new friend, or safe enough to let down and cry with someone we

Meeting the Demands of Life with Self-Regulation, Solo-Regulation, Solitary Regulation, and Co-Regulation  The other day I was questioned about “solo regulation”. What is solo regulation really? Do we mean “solitary”?  This got me thinking about different flavors of self-regulation.  We all have our favorite “go-to” ways of regulating ourselves. What are yours? Solitary Self-Regulation: Solitary,

So much of what keeps us alive and healthy in our bodies is unconscious and yet essential. Polyvagal theory and Body Up Co-Regulation offer pathways for adjusting our unconscious autonomic functions intentionally, increasing health and resilience.    Threat responses narrow our focus to what the nervous system deems essential for survival, often at the expense of

Good Agreements Build Relationship Stability  Stable co-regulatory relationships expand our bandwidth for facing life. AND: Most of us want long-term romantic partnerships, while actually experiencing romance as a revolving door of short-term partnerships. Master couples therapist and author Stan Tatkin* proposes building good contracts into partnerships for more relational stability. I agree and I know

There are many reasons to take psychedelics. Healing, creativity, spiritual growth, developing group minds, and cooperation, to name a few. One speaker at the recent Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapy Summit mentioned how Silicon Valley entrepreneurs believe they “need to be microdosing just to keep pace with the other innovators in tech”. My interest is in more